Blogging frustrations: Almost ready to quit


Going self-hosted with my blog Words By Gemm has been difficult. I started from scratch and I no longer had the support of the amazing wordpress community finding my blog posts through the reader.


Whenever I check my stats I can’t help but feel disheartened and wonder if I really made the right decision when I started a new self-hosted blog.

But despite everything the one good thing is that I’m loving the content that I’ve been sharing on my new site. I created a Career category where I share my experiences. I’m planning a series about starting full time work and also plan to share posts about being unemployed and figuring out what kind of job you want. Yesterday I published a post about working in a job that I liked on the road to finding my ‘dream job’ and what it taught me.

At the moment my traffic comes from only twitter as far as I know but it’s quite frustrating knowing that I have to rely on constantly promoting my blog posts on social media in the hopes of getting views.

One of the main reasons I haven’t yet quit is because I actually really enjoy blogging, it’s just not as fun when you hardly have any readers.

I’m writing this post just to share how I’ve been feeling lately. Also I’d love to know how you promote your blog posts or if you have any sites or courses that are helpful for someone trying (and failing) to grow their blog.

If you have a blog, leave a link below because I’m always on the lookout for new blogs to read!



Distractions and decisions




So I’ve got my new site Words by gemm up and running but I’m deflated with it already. I miss you all here in the WordPress community. I miss my regular readers who would like and comment on my blog posts. Things have been pretty slow in terms of growth and my efforts seem to be fruitless. I’ve actually thought about coming back to WordPress but I don’t know whether that would just be me quitting before I’ve given myself a real chance or the best thing for me to do.

Anyway I guess I’d love some advice or inspiration for what to do when you try something new and it seems to be failing. Or maybe what keeps you going when it feels like you’re just running into walls.

I’ve also been thinking about taking time away from instagram and twitter, deleting the apps for a while and focusing my time elsewhere. By elsewhere I mean on my blog. I wonder if maybe I’m just trying way too hard to love blogging the way I used to at 16 and 17 but things have changed to much to ever get back to the way things once were.

I created twitter and instagram as a way to reach more potential readers for my blog but now I spend more time on them than I do on blogging. If I’m completely honest neither of them have ever really benefited me much in terms of gaining new readers. They’ve both just become distractions.

I want to put that time into reading, writing and creating for my online space. Maybe I need a challenge like ‘x amount of blog posts before the year is over’. I’m not 100% on my plan going forward but I’ll keep you updated and if you haven’t seen my new site let me know what you think of it.

Feel free to leave my any advice but also the links to your blogs too!

What distracts you?

Moving forward




I know I haven’t written for a long time (3  months to be precise) but I’m back and I have news.

I’ve finally created a self-hosted site called Words by gemm. I published my first post yesterday and I’m really looking forward to continuing my blogging journey on a new site. If you enjoy reading this blog then head on over to my new site and subscribe so you don’t miss out. If you check out my first post be sure to let me know what you think. I’ll be blogging about similar topics that you’ve read on this site but they’ll be a little more polished and I’ll also be sharing a little bit of beauty and fashion too.

Starting afresh is pretty daunting. But I’m learning that sometimes you have to be willing to try something that might not work.

When is the last time you tried something new?

p.s. I might still post here occasionally but for the most part I’ll be on my new site as well as Twitter and Instagram, so join me!

Day 30



I’ve reached the end of my daily blogging challenge and I’m proud that I was able to complete it. Posting everyday in April has taught me an array of lessons. I’ve learnt things about staying committed, understanding that not everything will be perfect and the importance of a routine.

When I decided to post daily in April I had done no preparation. I had no idea that most of my posts would just be life musings. I had no idea that daily blogging for a month would teach me so much the second time around. I won’t be continuing on with daily blogging and I’ll explain about that further in an upcoming post.

To end I’d like to share 3 quotes:

if I’d have been truly willing I’d have found a way

be willing to give your self a point of view

lost in the process of creativity

Lastly, thank you for reading.



The anonymity I once had



Today I envisioned where I’d like to take my blog in the future. When I began blogging it was all very anonymous and I never showed my face or used my real name. But as time went on that changed. Over the past few years I’ve included pictures of myself all over my blog and I use my name on social media instead of a nickname.

But as I’m getting older and I’m figuring out the sort of content I want to write about I’m realising that I don’t want to use pictures of myself as much. Firstly because I kind of miss the anonymity I once had and secondly because I don’t actually need people to see an array of images of me. When writing about The myth of not knowing or Expectations and disappointment a photo of me isn’t really necessary.

I think it’s pretty interesting because I decided to start showing what I looked like as a way to share more of myself with my readers and because I felt as though I was hiding away. I’m now at a point where my readers know me (or can get to know me) through my writing style and I don’t feel the need to be seen as much.

So you can expect less of my face in the future, you may have noticed I’ve already started implementing this.


The smallest decisions



Words by people I admire or am inspired by mean so much to me. Today I’m sharing a quote by one of my favorite characters.

Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can pretty much change your life forever.

Felicity Porter

When you want to change your life it can be easy to try and go for gold, to go for the big thing but it isn’t always necessary. Sometimes its the smallest decisions -like choosing to take a walk, talking to a stranger instead of ignoring them, saying yes instead of no or choosing to go with your gut instinct instead of thinking things over (and over and over)- that make the biggest difference.

So don’t hold out for something big, embrace the little things and change your life!