Today I had a mini revelation about spending time by myself. After a day of classes I stopped off at a park on my way home. I walked down the path and sat on a bench, then proceeded to listen to a podcast and gaze at the pool of water before me.
I hadn’t had a particularly stressful day but I just felt compelled to have some intentional alone time. I spend time by myself on a regular basis but the majority of the time I’m completing some sort of task like doing food shopping or running errands. However, I’m learning that there is great significance in spending time alone without an agenda. Sat on that park bench, I felt relaxed and at peace. It gave me time to reflect on my day. When I left the park I felt refreshed as though I’d just finished meditating. When I looked up at the sky I saw a rainbow and immediately felt a sense of bliss, as though it was a sign that I was exactly I was meant to be.
Sometimes it’s the little things that do you a world of good.
Talking about what is going on in my life is something I completely underestimated, until I did it. The whole thing of being vulnerable isn’t something that comes easy to me to I’ve often been reluctant to open up.
As I got older and I faced certain challenges and life difficulties I realised that I had to put down the burden I’d been carrying round with me for much too long. I had to open up. It started with strangers and was followed by friends. My friends were kind and supportive.
Being open and honest, being vulnerable didn’t feel as bad as I had assumed it would. It made my life so much easier.
So, if you’re going through something and keeping it to yourself, don’t. Talking might seem too simple or difficult but if you open up to the right person it will definitely be worth it.
Everyday this month I’ve checked my blog stats. Sometimes I do it multiple times a day. But this morning I realised that views aren’t as important as comments.
For someone that blogs for business the views will be an indication of what’s popular. Then they may focus more on what the readers like best.
But my blog is just my hobby. More people means higher numbers. More comments or interactions means that I’m able to connect with people and that what I create is worth responding to.
Seth Godin once said in an interview that it’s not about getting more people but more of the right people. I totally agree.
My blog has always been a space for me to use my voice to talk about life, things that interest me and the things that I care about. Over time I’ve focused more and more on writing about life. The majority of my content is musings on daily life, sharing things I’ve learnt or am currently learning. As much as I enjoy writing about all that life stuff, there is a part of me that wants write about other things too. I also want to write about books, personal style, being creative, places and occasionally products.
I’ve always struggled with creating niche content because I like to blog about the things that mean something too me. That can vary from a self-help book on confidence to a cleanser that makes me feel amazing every time I use it. I understand that the variation in my content probably doesn’t help in terms of growth but I’m not yet ready to make a choice.
I guess creating a separate blog where I can share more lifestyle based content is something that I need to consider. For now I’m going to experiment a little here and see how it goes implementing a little more variation into the content of this blog.
I’m a big fan of sharing quotes and whilst scrolling through my phone I came across one by Bonhoeffer. It perfectly answers something I found myself wondering a little over a year ago. In the spring of 2016 I found myself wondering why I wasn’t managing to do the things I wanted to and when I did start I couldn’t fully commit.
“Action springs not from thought, but from a readiness for responsibility.”
― Dietrich Bonhoeffer
I’ve always been a big thinker but this quote made me realise that to think is not enough. Action will come from you being ready to take responsibility for yourself and for whatever you need to accomplish. I think it’s important to sometimes just admit to yourself that you aren’t ready to take responsibility yet. There’s nothing wrong with that because honesty is important.
But the most important thing is that you do take action at some point. If things don’t work out you can try again (and again and again!). Just don’t get too caught up in waiting until you’re totally ready because that time may never come.
Our days are made up of hundreds of choices (or potential choices). Sometimes we have to make the choice between what we’ve always done and what we’re too scared to do. Sometimes anxiety can take over, leading us back to a place where we find comfort in familiarity despite the harm that it may cause.
The thing that scares us is often the more difficult choice, it’s unfamiliar and we may even have to create a new neural pathway, it can be hard-work. But despite how it may seem, the thing that you’re too scared to do will always be worth it. When what you’ve always done isn’t working, when you become aware of this it’s your duty to be valiant (or even just rational) and decide that you’re willing to change.
Not everything is worth your time, effort or energy so pick wisely. It’s okay to say no, it’s okay to let go and it’s okay to put yourself first. It’s easier said than done but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try.