The anonymity I once had

Thoughts

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Today I envisioned where I’d like to take my blog in the future. When I began blogging it was all very anonymous and I never showed my face or used my real name. But as time went on that changed. Over the past few years I’ve included pictures of myself all over my blog and I use my name on social media instead of a nickname.

But as I’m getting older and I’m figuring out the sort of content I want to write about I’m realising that I don’t want to use pictures of myself as much. Firstly because I kind of miss the anonymity I once had and secondly because I don’t actually need people to see an array of images of me. When writing about The myth of not knowing or Expectations and disappointment a photo of me isn’t really necessary.

I think it’s pretty interesting because I decided to start showing what I looked like as a way to share more of myself with my readers and because I felt as though I was hiding away. I’m now at a point where my readers know me (or can get to know me) through my writing style and I don’t feel the need to be seen as much.

So you can expect less of my face in the future, you may have noticed I’ve already started implementing this.

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The smallest decisions

Inspiration

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Words by people I admire or am inspired by mean so much to me. Today I’m sharing a quote by one of my favorite characters.

Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can pretty much change your life forever.

Felicity Porter

When you want to change your life it can be easy to try and go for gold, to go for the big thing but it isn’t always necessary. Sometimes its the smallest decisions -like choosing to take a walk, talking to a stranger instead of ignoring them, saying yes instead of no or choosing to go with your gut instinct instead of thinking things over (and over and over)- that make the biggest difference.

So don’t hold out for something big, embrace the little things and change your life!

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Something worth talking about

Thoughts

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Talking about what is going on in my life is something I completely underestimated, until I did it. The whole thing of being vulnerable isn’t something that comes easy to me to I’ve often been reluctant to open up.

As I got older and I faced certain challenges and life difficulties I realised that I had to put down the burden I’d been carrying round with me for much too long. I had to open up. It started with strangers and was followed by friends. My friends were kind and supportive.

Being open and honest, being vulnerable didn’t feel as bad as I had assumed it would. It made my life so much easier.

So, if you’re going through something and keeping it to yourself, don’t. Talking might seem too simple or difficult but if you open up to the right person it will definitely be worth it.

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Comments and numbers 

Thoughts

Everyday this month I’ve checked my blog stats. Sometimes I do it multiple times a day. But this morning I realised that views aren’t as important as comments.

For someone that blogs for business the views will be an indication of what’s popular. Then they may focus more on what the readers like best.
But my blog is just my hobby. More people means higher numbers. More comments or interactions means that I’m able to connect with people and that what I create is worth responding to.

Seth Godin once said in an interview that it’s not about getting more people but more of the right people. I totally agree.

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The reason you won’t take action

Inspiration

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I’m a big fan of sharing quotes and whilst scrolling through my phone I came across one by Bonhoeffer. It perfectly answers something I found myself wondering a little over a year ago. In the spring of 2016 I found myself wondering why I wasn’t managing to do the things I wanted to and when I did start I couldn’t fully commit.

“Action springs not from thought, but from a readiness for responsibility.”
Dietrich Bonhoeffer

I’ve always been a big thinker but this quote made me realise that to think is not enough. Action will come from you being ready to take responsibility for yourself and for whatever you need to accomplish. I think it’s important to sometimes just admit to yourself that you aren’t ready to take responsibility yet. There’s nothing wrong with that because honesty is important.

But the most important thing is that you do take action at some point. If things don’t work out you can try again (and again and again!). Just don’t get too caught up in waiting until you’re totally ready because that time may never come.

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Fear and familiarity

Inspiration

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Our days are made up of hundreds of choices (or potential choices). Sometimes we have to make the choice between what we’ve always done and what we’re too scared to do. Sometimes anxiety can take over, leading us back to a place where we find comfort in familiarity despite the harm that it may cause.

The thing that scares us is often the more difficult choice, it’s unfamiliar and we may even have to create a new neural pathway, it can be hard-work. But despite how it may seem, the thing that you’re too scared to do will always be worth it. When what you’ve always done isn’t working, when you become aware of this it’s your duty to be valiant (or even just rational) and decide that you’re willing to change.

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